They were right all along. Your defiance was futile. It truly can’t be. Who are you to defy the opinions of many which are based on their own experiences? But still you tried, you stubborn you. So much for trying though. Can your hear the “I told you so”?
Friends can be lovers, but LOVERS CAN’T be FRIENDS. It’s the unwritten LAW. It is the ugly TRUTH. It hurts you, but that’s the reality you have to face. Yes, you were friends for 6 years. Six long years. Most of those years are devoted to getting to know and eventually falling in love with each other. But when the love fizzles, the friendship cools down as well. And it ain’t cool, mehn. Especially when:
1. Your “friend” still holds on. The “friendship” is a false pretense. A cover-up. You might just be denying that you’re in love and that you treat each other as “just a friend.” But somewhere deep in your heart, you still feel something. You call it “care,” which is really a form of love.
2. Your “friend” gets emotionally attached. You still share the details about each other’s lives. You comfort each other in times of despair. You are always a shoulder to cry on. You become sad. And on the other side, if something awesome happened to your day, he or she is the first one to know. You laugh together. You make fun of each other.
3. Your “friend” gets physically attached. Without planning or knowing it, suddenly, you both find yourself intertwined in bed. The intimacy brings you together again. You feel that certain connection that only the two of you understand.
4. Your “friend” becomes jealous. That green-eyed monster suddenly creeps in, once you start liking someone else. You mention another name in the conversation and you start fighting. It’s called the “territorial syndrome.”
Then, it dawns on you. You can’t be friends. Not anymore. Because it’s not helping the both of you. It’s just straining you. So you do what they think is right for the both of you. You follow what others have done to their “friends.” Ex-communicate! And be grateful for the unfriending app. That’s the wonder Facebook does. One click and voila! You don’t know him, he doesn’t know you. You have deleted each other in the virtual world. And in real life. Goodbye, my good ol’ “friend”!
